Hi, I’m Brian.
Like everyone, my life journey is unique and has given me a unique perspective based on the joys and challenges that have come into my life. I believe the challenges of life lead us to grow the most. I have had careers in engineering and business-to-business technology sales. I’ve been fired from a job, twice. I’ve been divorced. I’ve lost a child.
These gray hairs in my beard were all earned, along with the wisdom acquired along the journey.
Let me share what I’ve learned with you.
About Me
I have been with my wife for more than thirty years. Before that, I experienced the loss of divorce. My wife and I have raised two beautiful, competent, compassionate, and independent daughters. In June 2015, my daughter Shayna suddenly and unexpectedly passed from this life into the next life. With Shayna’s passing, I have experienced the most profound loss anyone can suffer.
After the transition of Shayna, my spiritual quest intensified. I have made myself into an expert on anything concerning the afterlife. Because of my Chemical Engineering background, I have taken a scientific as well as a spiritual and philosophical approach to this. I needed to know, not just believe.
Because of these experiences, I have navigated the situations below and can help guide you through them. Often, we feel stuck and overwhelmed and need a gentle nudge and guidance.
Why I Do This Work
I feel that Shayna and I are on a mission. As the one left in the physical world, it’s my job to carry on the mission for her, her sister, and my wife.
How I Do This Work
In my grief work, I provide a safe space where you can safely share what you are experiencing. I share techniques that he discovered and developed after his devastating loss. Perhaps most importantly, I can help you understand that death is not goodbye and that your relationship with your loved one can continue. My understanding is not a religious-based belief but a position based on reason and evidence. If you’re feeling “stuck,” it’s most likely because you have forgotten the answer to one or both of these questions.
My Vision
My vision is to create a world where everyone has a sense of purpose and fulfillment. If we know the “why”, we can endure any “how’. I want to remind everyone of their true nature and reason for being. I believe that we have forgotten where we came from, why we are here, and where we are going.
I want to help you remember.
Where Else You Can Find Me
I am the author Grief 2 Growth, Planted. Not Buried (the book) and the host of the Grief 2 Growth Podcast.
You can also find me on YouTube.
I am a public speaker and a frequent guest on podcasts.
A Little More About Me
A Few Areas Of Expertise
I have navigated the situations below and can help guide you through them. Often, we feel stuck and overwhelmed and need a gentle nudge and guidance.
Grief
After the loss of Shayna in 2015, I dedicated my life to understanding grief. I am a certified grief educator and have worked with hundreds of people who have suffered losses. I know grief from experience as well as education.
Toxic Religion
Religion can bring comfort. But religion can also cause pain. It was the religion of my youth that led to many of my feelings of inadequacy and never being able to please God. I help people put their faith in context and determine what is reasonable and true.
Continuing Bonds
After the passing of a loved one, we are often told to “move on.” We are told to let go of the unrealistic expectation of continuing that relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Marriage/Relationships
I’ve been married since 1990. Over three decades of marriage and raising two daughters has given me a great deal of knowledge in those areas.
Life Balance/Self-Care
It’s essential to know our priorities and keep them in order and balance as we navigate life. Self-care is an afterthought for many of us and in many grief programs, you will encounter. Self-care is absolutely essential so that we can show up as the best person possible and serve the world.
Mental Fitness
Just as we take care of our bodies, we must care for our minds and spirits. I help people develop practices that even the busiest people can do. These practices build the resilience we need to weather the storms life inevitably brings.
Organizations I’m Proud To Work With
Keynote Speaker
