What Is A Life Coach?
Do I Need A Life Coach?
Isn’t hiring a life coach like paying someone to be your friend? The answer is yes and no. Like a good friend, a life coach will be a great listener. A good life coach will help you understand yourself. The answers you seek are within. But, we sometimes need helping bringing those answers forth. As your life coach, I will help you with a framework to understand what is you want to do, make a plan to do it, and stick to that plan.
Differences between a life coach and a friend
Unlike a friendship, a life coach will singularly focus on you. When you’re having a conversation with a friend, you expect reciprocity. With a friend, you will talk about yourself for a while, and you will talk about your friend for a while. You don’t schedule an hour with a friend that is all about you.
When you pay someone to have a conversation, you feel more comfortable opening up and focusing on yourself. With a life coach, you can be “selfish” and concentrate on yourself. Our sessions focus on having you leave feeling better about yourself and with a plan to move forward.
Also, as a certified life coach, I have tools and techniques that your friends don’t have. These tools will help you assess yourself. Once we have figured out who you are and what you want, we make a plan for you to get there.
Like a sports coach, a life coach will help you make a plan and execute it.
As a third party, I can help you feel accountable. If you know you’ve got an appointment coming up with me and we’ve set a goal, you’re much more likely to achieve that goal knowing that I’m going to be asking about it. I’ve found that people often begin taking action simply because they know they will be meeting with me later to talk about what they did to move forward on their plan.
A conversation with a friend is about mutual benefit. Our sessions are focused on the singular goal of making your life better. We will assess where you are, make a plan, and then work that plan- toward those goals.
How We Will Work Together
We will work together to assess first of all who you truly are and what you genuinely want out of life. Unless you hire me for something specific like dealing with grief or small business consulting, we will look at seven essential areas of life.
Here is the basic framework I use:
- Assess what in your life is out of balance- What needs more attention? What may be taking too much of your focus?
- Examine your limiting beliefs- What beliefs might be holding your back?
- Examine your Core Values & Core Beliefs- We’ll determine what you want to achieve and what things are important to you.
- Set Goals- based on the above work, we’ll determine what your goals and strategies will be.
- Make a plan- if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. You cannot get where you want to be without a roadmap.
- Work the plan- we’ll continuously re-assess where we are. We’ll look at what is working and what is not working. I will be your accountability partner.
I won’t promise you riches, finding your soulmate or even happiness. Anyone who does is lying to you. Happiness is fleeting and dependent on circumstances. Fulfillment is what I will encourage you to seek. What I will promise you is I will help you set achievable goals; which don’t rely on exterior circumstances. We will work to create favorable conditions, which will likely lead to money and relationships and all the rest. When Jesus said “Seek ye first the Kingdom of heaven and all these things will be added to you.”, what he meant was to change from the inside out. Do the inner work first. Once we do that inner work, two things happen. First, you will find yourself more content in your present conditions. Second, you will attract to yourself better conditions.
You’re a powerful, resilient being. Let’s bring that out of you.