Isn’t hiring a life coach like paying someone to be your friend? The answer is yes and no. Like a good friend, a life coach will be a great listener. A good life coach will help you understand yourself. The answers you seek are within. But, we sometimes need helping bringing those answers forth. As your lifecoach, I will help you with a framework to understand what is you want to do, make a plan to do it, and stick to that plan.
Differences between a life coach and a friend
Unlike a friendship, a life coach will singularly focus on you. When you’re having a conversation with a friend, you expect reciprocity. With a friend, you will talk about you for a while, and you will talk about your friend for a while. You don’t schedule an hour with a friend that is all about you.
When you pay someone to have a conversation, you feel more comfortable opening up and focusing on yourself. With a life coach, you can be “selfish” and concentrate on you. Our sessions are focused on having you leaving feeling better about yourself and with a plan to move forward.
Also, a certified life coach I have tools and techniques that your friends don’t have. These tools will help you assess you. Once we have figured out who you are and what you want, we make a plan for you to get there.
As a third party, I can help you feel accountable. If you know you’ve got an appointment coming up with me and we’ve set a goal, you’re much more likely to achieve that goal knowing that I’m going to be asking about it. I’ve found that people often begin taking action simply because they know they will be meeting with me later to talk about what they did to move forward on their plan.
A conversation with a friend is about mutual benefit. Our sessions are focused on the singular goal of making your life better. We will assess where you are, make a plan, and then work that plan- toward those goals.
Like a sports coach, a life coach will help you make a plan and execute it.
It’s been my experience that by the time people come to me they are often beaten up by life and by themselves. They may feel weak, unorganized, unmotivated, and think they are failing at life. However, what I have found is they are much stronger than they give themselves credit for. They have been being strong for too long and are often simply exhausted and frustrated because what they are doing isn’t “working” to get them to where they want to be.
The first thing I do with my clients is to build them up. I help them see themselves from a different perspective. We take a realistic look at the circumstances that have brought them to the point they have reached. I help them appreciate how powerful they are and have been. Universally, every person who has come to me is a strong, resilient, self-aware person. But, they don’t see that in themselves.
Then, we will together to assess who you truly are and what you genuinely want out of life. Unless you have come to me for a specific topic like grief or small business consulting, there are seven primary areas of life that we will examine. We look for what is going well, what could go better, and what your priorities and desires are.
This is how we will work
- Assess what in your life is out of balance- What needs more attention? What may be taking too much of your focus?
- Examine your limiting beliefs- What beliefs might be holding you back?
- Examine your Core Values & Core Beliefs- We’ll determine what you want to achieve and what things are essential to you.
- Set Goals- based on the above work, we’ll determine what your goals and strategies will be.
- Make a plan- if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. To get to your destination, you need a roadmap.
- Work the plan- we’ll continuously re-assess where we are. We’ll look at what is working and what is not working. I will be your accountability partner.
I won’t promise you riches, finding your soulmate, or even happiness. Anyone who does is lying to you. Happiness is fleeting and dependent on circumstances. Fulfillment is what I will encourage you to seek.
What I will promise you is I will help you set achievable goals; which don’t rely on exterior circumstances. We will work to create favorable conditions, which will likely lead to money and relationships and all the rest. When Jesus said “Seek ye first the Kingdom of heaven and all these things will be added to you.”, what he meant was to change from the inside out. Do the inner work first. That is what we can control. Once we have done that work, two things happen. We learn to be content with our present circumstances. And, we begin to attract more favorable conditions to us.
I earned a B.S. in Chemical Engineering from The Ohio State University. I worked as an Operations Engineer for Columbia Gas of Ohio.
I sold computer systems for IBM, Sun Microsystems, and a number of small independent resellers for nearly twenty-five years. I was trained in sales techniques by some of the best and was a top performer in sales and sales management during my sales career
Owner/Operator of Treasured Locks
In 2002, my wife and I started Treasured Locks, an independent hair and skin care company. I built our first website. As a sole proprietor, I have had to learn all aspects of starting up and running a business including e-commerce, shipping, online marketing, and advertising, email (several platforms), SMS or text marketing, etc.
My wife and I taught couples marriage skills at the Vineyard church for several years.
Boards of Directors
I serve on the Board of Directors for the SoulPhone Foundation working with Dr. Gary Schwartz and Dr. Mark Pitstick, among others, to bring this exciting technology to the world. I also volunteer to support Greater Reality Living from a technical perspective helping with social media, the website, email communications, etc.
I am on the Board of Directors of Helping Parents Heal, an international organization of nearly 15,000 members around the world. Helping Parents Heal brings together parents whose children have passed into the spirit world. We provide hope, support, and comfort.
Volunteer Work and Consulting
I am an affiliate leader for the Helping Parents Online Group, a Facebook support group with almost 5,000 members. The online group brings nationally recognized leaders in healing and the afterlife to our parents via teleconferencing technology.
I work part-time for the San Francisco Theological Seminary in their Applied Wisdom Institute, as a technical assistant. In that role, I have co-taught Grief and Spirituality to grief counselors and pastors.
I consult for a celebrity medium helping them with his website, social media and customer service.