This blog is dedicated to my beautiful daughter, Shayna Elayne Smith, who passed from this world in June 2015.

Shayna continues to guide, inspire, push, and prod me. She has shown me signs of her continued and remains a daily presence in my life.

She is my inspiration for the work I do.

12 Things to Know About the First Year of Grieving Someone You Can’t Live Without. ~ Laurie Costanza

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12 Things to Know About the First Year of Grieving Someone You Can’t Live Without. ~ Laurie Costanza

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Say Her Name, Please

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During the time when a parent has lost a child, it’s awkward for people to be around you.  Our society doesn’t like grieving people. We don’t know what to say. We don’t have any good rituals or social norms- especially for the loss of a child. There are no words.  There just aren’t.  People have […]

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Shayna’s Prayer

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I wrote this for Shayna on the occasion of her birth. I felt her name had been given to us and I felt she had a mission in life.   Our Father in Heaven,We thank you for the precious gift you have given usWe thank you for blessing us with a second healthy child  We […]

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Day 13- Death Comes Like a Thief in the Night

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Today is Monday, the first day we are going to try to get back to a full routine.  Kayla has to go to her lifeguard job all day.  Ty and I are going to try to get the orders out.  Ann is coming to help.   I manage to get myself out of bed after […]

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Day 14- Shock- The Incomprehensible Has Happened

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As parents, we all worry every time our kids leave our sides that they might not come back.  Yesterday I wrote about how Death stole into my house in the middle of the night to snatch my baby right out from under my watch.   People are telling us how well we are doing, but […]

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Day 14- Please Speak Hope to Me

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During these first, darkest days after the passing of a loved one, we are trying to find first, a reason and second, a way to go on.  We want to die with them. We know we can’t bring them back, but maybe we can go be with them. We pray to God, “Why didn’t you take […]

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Crossing Over. Thanks for this Otto.

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Day 13- No Regrets

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The last two weeks have been hell on Earth for Ty, Kayla and myself.  Moving on without our Beautiful Light at time seems like an insurmountable task, but move on we will.   During this time we have done a lot of reflecting on the past 15 years. What we did right, what we did […]

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Day 12- No, I’m Not Strong

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I get up and do a couple of hours of therapy on Facebook and tumblr. Processing like this helps until I can get into grief counseling which won’t be for another week. My good friend who checks in on me every morning via Facebook messaging checks in. My plan is to go for a power […]

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Day 11- The New Normal

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Today, the last of the family left. My brother, his wife and my mother said their good-byes and returned to their lives.  Their support was great, but at some point we all have to go back to our lives. People have stopped just dropping by. This is a good thing. It’s time. We have to […]

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Day 10- Trying to Process All Of This

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Woke up feeling pretty good. Actually made it out of bed without crying- a first. Decided to go for a walk. Gotta get back into the routine. But, when I got downstairs, I started to work on the Tumblr I’m using to document this journey. Did Shayna send this idea to me? Shayna didn’t like to […]

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Day 9- Grief Counseling

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Now that the service is over and I have a moment to breathe, it’s time to start trying to heal. Ty and I have decided since Day 2 that we are going to need help through this. There is no way I can do this on my own and even with the amazing support system […]

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