Day 17- SENS- Sudden Empty Nest Syndrome
For the last 18-½ years I have built my life, my identity , my purpose for existing around being a father and a protector. I recall the moment I felt the mantle slip onto my shoulders. It wasn’t when Kayla was born, it was when I was strapping her car seat into the car for […]Keep Reading
How To Deal With Grief – A Radically Different Way
How To Deal With Grief – A Radically Different Way This is a video that I think can help probably later in the grief process rather than right away. There is a time to be sad, angry to mourn and we shouldn’t try to bypass that, but there comes a time when it’s time to […]Keep Reading
Day 16- The Word For Today Is Confusion
It’s been two weeks and a day since Shayna passed. At first I felt like I wouldn’t be able to draw another breath. Then, it was kind of surreal. My brain kept rejecting what I knew to be objectively true. I kept thinking she’s just on a sleepover or she’s up in her room on […]Keep Reading
Day 17- O Death Where Is Thy Victory?
I wake up today feeling pretty good. So good in fact that I’m a bit worried. I haven’t cried in nearly 24 hours. Does that mean I’m OK? Does it mean I didn’t love Shayna enough? I have been finding some amazing resources. God or the Universe, seems to be giving me what I […]Keep Reading
Day 16- Take Care of Your Other Children
When you lose a child, it’s the worst thing any of us can imagine. Your focus narrows. Your care for the things of the world just drops away. All you can think about is the loss of that child. You will even feel you want to be with them. I can still feel a sense […]Keep Reading
Day 16- Is Shayna a Big Sister Now?
My friend Robert sent this to me via Facebook four days ago: I saw your girl, last night, in a dream. She seems to have found her “favorite place” in Heaven. She is the BEST Big Sister EVER to the “unwanted” children who got there way before they should have. She was running, playing, hiding, […]Keep Reading
Day 15- The Call from the Funeral Home-Shayna is back with us
It’s been exactly one week since Shayna’s Celebration. We went to the funeral home the next day so Kayla could say one more good-bye to what had been Shayna’s body. I say had been because Shayna departed that (beautiful) shell two weeks ago. We had Her body cremated and we knew this call would be […]Keep Reading
Day 15- Do I Want to Heal?
Today is a jumble of emotions. My buddy who checks in with me at least once a day, usually twice, checks in first thing in the morning. I’m feeling depressed, but I got up, got dressed and made it out the door to a breakfast meeting with a friend I haven’t seen in years. People […]Keep Reading
Day 15-Shayna Visits Kayla in a Dream
Kayla matter-of-factly tells Ty today that she has dream of Shayna several times since her passing. I knew about the one the night before last when she came to our room hysterical because she, for a while, thought Shayna was back with us. What we found out today though is she had a very vivid […]Keep Reading
12 Things to Know About the First Year of Grieving Someone You Can’t Live Without. ~ Laurie Costanza
12 Things to Know About the First Year of Grieving Someone You Can’t Live Without. ~ Laurie CostanzaKeep Reading
Say Her Name, Please
During the time when a parent has lost a child, it’s awkward for people to be around you. Our society doesn’t like grieving people. We don’t know what to say. We don’t have any good rituals or social norms- especially for the loss of a child. There are no words. There just aren’t. People have […]Keep Reading
I wrote this for Shayna on the occasion of her birth. I felt her name had been given to us and I felt she had a mission in life. Our Father in Heaven,We thank you for the precious gift you have given usWe thank you for blessing us with a second healthy child We […]Keep Reading