When it comes to After Death Communications, that is the deceased communicating with us still here, there is a very uneven distribution of riches. Some people are born with a “gift” where the unseen to most of us is as plain as the nose on your face. I put gift in quotation marks because many of those people see it as a curse and actually either ignore it or pray it away. They just want to be normal and fit in and have better things to do with their lives. Others have the gift just open up it seems like mostly in the late teens and early twenties. People will describe it as a spontaneous opening of their third eye. One day they are blind to the spiritual world, the next they see it clearly. Some receive it through a spiritually transformative experience (STE) which can be a near death experience, an out of body expedience, the death of a close loved one or anything else. Then there are the rest of us. We are deaf and blind when it comes to the spiritual world and no amount of meditation or study or anything else seems to change that.
Frankly it pisses me off when I hear someone who has this gift say “Oh, what I do anyone can do.”. Baloney. The best analogy I have come up with is it’s like playing a musical instrument. Some can pick up a guitar or sit at a piano and be plucking out tunes in minutes and master the instrument in weeks or months. Most can get decent with a lot of work, but they will never be anything like that person with the natural ability. Then there are the rest of us. We might try to play, take a few lessons, practice for a while every day but it’s so frustrating, the progress is so slow it’s like watching a glacier move. So, we just set it down and leave it to the professionals ane enjoy the music they create.
Roughly six in ten people who have had a loved one pass senses some sort of communication from that person after their transition. The number jumps to 80% when it comes to a parent surviving a child. The communications aren’t in the form of complete messages though. They’re signs like unusual behavior from animals or insects, a telephone ringing and the departed’s number on the caller ID, crazy synchronistic events, etc. Very few see apparitions or hear voices. Some will get touches or smells. Dreams are very common as our defenses are down and our minds more receptive.
This can be incredibly frustrating for those not getting the signs, dreams, etc. We tend to ask “What’s wrong with me?” “Doesn’t she love me?” and all kinds of questions that only compound our own grief.
The after death communication is not as simple as picking up a telephone. The “problem” could be on your end, your loved one’s end or somewhere in between. Maybe there is a reason you’re not getting signs because as much as you might want them RIGHT NOW, they are not for your greater good. Hard to believe and even harder to accept, but we do know we don’t always get what we want and often that turns out for the best.
I write this because for almost a year I have been working on trying to create a direct connection with Shayna. I would love to have lucid dreams about her or out of body experiences or hear her as clearly as the two mediums I’ve had readings with. It’s not been in the cards for me. I don’t have that innate ability and I haven’t been able to develop it. I have to accept that what is is what was meant to be and not let doubt about how special our bond is creep in. It will happen soon enough. Whether it’s on this side of the divide or when I cross over, it will happen. I take comfort in knowing she is reading this even as I type it and she is right here beside me.