Getting Stuff Done
Paying bills, doing taxes, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, I think it’s fair to say no one enjoys these mundane tasks that modern life demands. We can often put them off until they become a crisis. When deciding what to take on a thing can be important/not important or urgent/non-urgent. Routine tasks are typically important- if we don’t do them they will cause a problem down the line. But, they are not often urgent, meaning we can put them off. A well-balanced life is one in which we handle our routine tasks in a timely manner to keep them from becoming urgent crises.
Are you getting “stuff” done or are you allowing things to pile up?
I believe the best way through grief is by facing the reality square on. Traditional grief counseling tells us to give up on the relationship we had. Our loved one is gone, never to be seen again. Get over it. My approach is the continuing bonds approach. Our loved ones are still with us, although in an unseen dimension that is difficult for most of us to detect. We can and should continue our relationship with them. And, they will be waiting for us when it’s our time to transition.
How are you coping with your grief?
Routine and Boring
There are some things in life that just aren’t fun. It’s tax season as I’m writing this and I’d much rather be working on making money or creating something than pouring over last year’s receipts. But, life isn’t all about doing the fun things. It’s easy to put off until tomorrow the things we hate to do. I’m as guilty of it as anyone. I have to create goals for myself, treat myself like a little kid. Pink Floyd’s lyric was “If you don’t eat your meat, you can’t have any pudding.” I have to do this to myself: “You can’t work on your website until you spend at least three hours working on taxes.”
Would you like some strategies to help you take care of business?